Good, good morning to you – moms, dads, grandparents, and caregivers.
It’s time for The Tuesday Tune In. This week, I’m telling you one super-quick, super-easy way to be present with your children.
You know that moment when our babies or kids ask us to do something “one more time”? I know you do.
We all love their desire for more Together Time – but in that moment we can pass on the opportunity. Often it’s because it’s nearing the end of the day and we’re too worn out. Or we see that little bit more as just TOO MUCH right then.
Or – if you’re like me – you’re just so ready for the fast-approaching Me Time.
So, you’ve probably already guessed what I’m going to tell you to try this week:
Push yourself to do that thing ONE MORE TIME.
For my kids, it’s an extra hug after bedtime kisses.
Have you ever seen a horse nearing the stable after a long walk? That’s when the horse’s walking turns into a trot because they know they’re almost home.
At 7:55pm, I feel me-time becoming a reality and I start to gallop home. And it’s right when I reach the stable when the kids each ask for one more hug.
For your child it might be asking for you to rock them one more time, to walk the curb like a balance beam one more time or to sing a chorus one more time.
I say, for the next week, Let’s see what happens when we push ourselves to give in for those two extra minutes – whether it’s the extra hug, the detour or the added rocking.
One of my biggest struggles as a parent is to do all of the things I do every day (career, errands, tasks, social life) and also find a way to be fully present with my kids.
I’ve found that this is one simple shift in my behavior that changes everything.
One day recently I went back and lied down with my daughter in her bed for a moment and I gave her a long, delicious hug. I let my tasks go. The emails would wait. The mess would still be there. And I gave in to two minutes of being fully present with her.
Later I realized that it was the best part of my day.
How did I realize the power of “one more time”?
I wrote the extra hug in my Five Minute Journal.
A couple weeks ago, I sent out an email about a practice called The Five Minute Journal by Tim Ferriss. (Read that full post here.)
I noticed that at the end of the day, when I was writing my list of amazing things that happened that day, I would consistently write about the extra hug. And then the next day when I was writing my list of what would make the day great I started to put down the extra hug. Because: Why wouldn’t I make my day amazing?
So try it. See if it makes your day amazing, too.
What’s your child’s “one more thing”? Comment and let me know.
One last dance-off? One last tickle fight? It’s different for every child. I want to know yours. Drop me a line here.
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Quick. Now. Before you’re ready to move on to Me time! Forward to a friend, you good samaritan.
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